What do you do when he says, “I don’t love you anymore? I don’t think I ever did.”
It would come like a slap to the face.
A slap that would leave its mark for about a month.
You’d be completely offset by this bizarre, unexpected turn of event. Because you never saw it coming.
The rage and tears will ensue mercilessly, for sure.
The questions screamed in silence unanswered, definitely.
Complaining, arguing and justifying yourself to anyone with an ear would prolly be a frequent occurrence.
Making a list of ultimatums and convincing yourself how you’ve had enough and how you don’t need this sh*t.
Then realize, the problem isn’t you. It’s him.
Then “Let him go” will finally make sense.
The ‘Rubberband Theory’ will finally make sense.
Like a child throwing a tantrum, sometimes the threats need to be ignored because inadvertently, the crisis is within him.
He needs to find peace within himself, and you need to get out of the way so he can figure it out.
You? You need to get on your knees and keep your eyes on Jesus. You’ll need an insurmountable measure of faith to stay on track and only Jesus can manufacture those.
This much I know:
1) Get out of the way.
2) Stop complaining about him. Supporting your loved one is not just for the good times, it’s for the times he doesn’t deserve it too.
3) There will be days you miss him, but remember what Taylor Swift said, in life you’ll do things greater than dating the guy on the football team. So miss him a little, cry a little, then go pick out curtain samples for your apartment.
4) He IS looking for assurance somewhere else because he’s not doing it with you.
5) What doesn’t kill you will make you stronger.
If at the end of the day, you go your separate ways, know that God works ALL things out for the good of those who love Him and are called according to His purpose.
Inspired by Laura Munson.
Thinking of: How the clock is ticking, marital inconsistencies, Friday, how I need to keep my mouth shut and a great deal of joy within the great deal of pain.