Being a woman is a privilege.
I’m not just saying that because I am one.
I met this
male chauvinistic pig guy who once told me in passing, ” I’m so glad I’m a guy. If a guy sleeps around he’s a stud, if a woman sleeps around she’s a sl*t.” He goes on to say something along the lines of how being male worked in his favour of the kind of bachelor life he wanted. I don’t agree with his view at all but his onion bothered me that there was a person out there who thought so little of what it means to truly be a woman, not just female.
Now, at 25, I love being a woman but I’d be a liar if I said the thought of the convenience of the other gender had not crossed my mind. There was a time I heard the lies that being female was a disadvantage; “Women are always on their period (emotionally if not physically), they get pregnant, they’re materialistic, vain, weak, contradictory and indecisive.”
This really isn’t about a man versus woman issue because it’s not an even-playing field. Men and women were both created SIMILARLY in God’s image for DIFFERENT purposes and function and thus cannot be treated as equals on every level. This is really a “love the skin you’re in” predicament many girls are facing.
God loves women. God loves men. A problem arises when men and women don’t love each other or themselves.
Lisa addresses these issues of learning to use our feminine strengths to build up another’s weakness. She teaches that as a woman, it’s important to know when to let go, when to hold on. We have the ability to love in a way that is not only fearless but protective. We, as women, are called to inspire through our natural femininity but a lot of times the focus is on what is wrong in the way we sometimes choose to love. That focus needs to shift, not so that we now live in denial but we refocus from just citing a problem to becoming part of the solution. Having flaws is okay, it’s better to be genuine about what we lack than to imagine pretending to be perfect will inspire perfection in others.
Yes, we need Kotex and we get pregnant, we also get to enjoy building a home that literally starts from within us. Yes, we do like shoes, clothes and looking after ourselves, but that’s because women naturally love beauty. No woman wants to look like the creature that lives under a bridge. In our homes and spaces, our distinct personal feminine touch is seen because God has granted women with His eye for design.
Not that men cannot do these things or do them well. Like I said, this isn’t about that. It’s about knowing who you are.
Our greatest deception comes when we don’t know who we are.
Embrace yourself in all your female splendour.
This is not at all the review I wanted to write but somehow we’re here. Buy the book, it provides a better understanding.
On a side note: Learning a new language makes picking up others a lot more easier.
Thinking of: Time, Johnny Rockets waiters dancing to Footloose, Munna in Boys and how perfect people don’t have anything to clap about.